RUOK?- A question that can be asked any day of the year.
I just watched the new 'RUOK?' media campaign and it brought a memory to mind. I remember late last year, I decided to focus more on my self care and looking after my body so I had been pretty consistent with heading to the gym in the mornings throughout the work week. I decided I wanted an extra push and a goal to work towards so I booked a Personal Training session, which due to availabilities could only be a night session.
I remember, as I was warming up on the treadmill one of the Personal Trainers came up to me and asked a pretty inconspicuous question. He asked me if everything was okay as I has already been at the gym much earlier that morning. Admittedly I am not someone to do night time gym sessions, and it is rare I am at the gym more than once a day so I can understand how a change of behaviour could be seen as a concern. Often that when we are unhappy or aren't feeling our best we can change our habits, whether it is something as simple as sleeping less or sleeping more, losing interest in things we used to love, or even something such as exercising more than the daily recommendation.
Funnily enough, just as I was about to start my training session, a boxing class had ended and another gym instructor came up and chatted to me. He said if I was wrecked tomorrow, not to come to my morning class and not to push it. In the past these comments would have annoyed me. I would have seen them as a judgement. This time though I saw it for what it really was: genuine care. I thought it was actually such a nice moment, and I felt really grateful.
I think we don’t check in with others and even ourselves nearly as much as we could. Often this comes down to a fear of not knowing what to say. What if we ask the question and the response is “I’m not doing well” or “No, I am not okay”? We do the best thing we can…listen! So if you have any concern about someone, or even yourself, don't brush off the thought, check in! Such a small act may make a huge impact!