Learning to Embrace Change: A slow process but a lifelong lesson
It is said that one of the biggest fears amongst humans is change. Why that is can be hypothesised for one or multiple reasons, but most likely because constant is comfortable. Don’t take my word for it though, I am no expert. All I can give you is my point of view, which is change will often do you good.
Growing up my mother taught me a lot, and one particular thing I held onto was her positivity for life. She always said (and still does!) “Put good thoughts out there and they will come true”. She taught me that it wasn’t always in the most literal sense, or even the most obvious but if you do good, and keep upbeat you will get where you need to. To some that may sound airy fairy but it really just comes down to working hard and having a positive outlook on life. When changes come about, it can be quite challenging to keep that upbeat positivity and we can often become anxious, get down or even angry. It is important to remember that feeling this way is totally normal, and letting ourselves embrace that feeling for a little while is fine. Just don’t stay there because at the end of the day you’re only hurting yourself. It is also important never to compare your situation to anyones else’s, as we all feel things differently and no two are ever the same.
Personally I feel I have had many changes over the last few years, and I am grateful for every one of them. As I write this I am about to go through another change. In the same week I am finishing up my job and heading overseas to stand beside one of my very best friends as she ties the knot. So in many ways I am am excited to travel but also sad to be finishing up work, so it is a strange mixture of feelings. Mostly I am excited though. Despite not knowing what will be next, or what I will be doing when I come home from my trip, I am just excited for the opportunity for new beginnings.
For anyone that knows me, they will agree that normally I am worrying about what will come next, but last year I made a promise to live in the now. It has been a slow change and I still think of what will be next, but I am no longer fearing the changes. I think realising that change will happen no matter what we do has helped me to embrace it rather than fear it. Once you learn to slow down a little and focus on each moment there is less pressure attached to the future.
I am in no way saying that I always feel this way nor that it is a totally easy process. However, I can recommend one thing and that is to listen to your heart, and don’t take it all so seriously. My goal for this year is to throw energy into doing what I love and less into the things that stress me out.
Does anyone else have similar goals? I would love to hear your thoughts and how you deal with change.